Unpopular Opinion: Stop Giving People Gifts They Don’t Want
- D'Nai Walker
- Nov 2
- 2 min read
We need to talk about something that secretly stresses a lot of people out — unwanted gifts.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard a client say, “I feel bad getting rid of it because someone gave it to me.” From random knickknacks to clothes that don’t fit their style to toys their kids are not in to, these “thoughtful” gifts often become clutter almost immediately.
Here’s the truth: the purpose of a gift is to bring joy — not guilt.
When Good Intentions Go Wrong
Most people give from the heart. They see something cute, think of you, and want to make you happy. But here’s the catch: when we give without thinking about the recipient’s lifestyle, preferences, or available space, the gift often creates more stress than joy.
For someone who’s trying to simplify, every extra item represents a decision — where to store it, how to use it, or when to let it go. Multiply that by every birthday, holiday, and “just because” moment, and you’ve got a serious accumulation problem.
The Guilt That Keeps You Stuck
Many of my clients feel obligated to keep gifts because they don’t want to seem ungrateful. But here’s a mindset shift: the moment you receive a gift, the giver’s job is done. The item is now yours to use, repurpose, donate, or let go of as you see fit.
Keeping something out of guilt doesn’t honor the giver — it just burdens you.
Rethinking Gift-Giving Altogether
If you’re tired of managing unwanted gifts (or accidentally giving them), consider shifting how you approach gifting:
Ask before you buy. A simple “Is there anything you’ve been needing or would actually use?” goes a long way.
Give experiences, not things. Think concert tickets, memberships, or restaurant gift cards — memories don’t take up closet space.
Create “clutter-free” traditions. Encourage family gift swaps, group experiences, or donation-based gifts.
Set boundaries gracefully. It’s okay to tell loved ones, “We’re trying to simplify, so please no toys this year — experiences or art supplies would mean so much more.”
The Bottom Line
You deserve a home filled with things that reflect your life today — not weighed down by items you’re afraid to part with.
When you give with thought and receive with intention, everyone wins. You free your loved ones from the burden of unwanted stuff, and you create a culture of generosity that feels lighter, more meaningful, and truly joyful.
Because the best gifts don’t fill your shelves — they fill your life.
